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Self-Compassion Exercises in
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

by Dr. Jan Newman

Many of our psychologists use ACT when working with teens and adults online in throughout the United States

North Carolina, Georgia, Texas, Colorado, Florida, and several other states under PSYPACT.

“The core of mental toughness is actually self-compassion. People who are mentally tough stay mentally tough because they don’t slip easily into shame or self-criticism or self-loathing.”
Dr. Kristin Neff talks about self-compassion at Google
Self-compassion is the master skill. It’s a superpower in life and work. It’s the antidote to shame.
Self-compassion is the hardest skill in ACT to master, but it packs the biggest punch, in my experience. Put simply, self-compassion is the skill of acknowledging pain and treating ourselves with genuine kindness and caring.

According to Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, self-compassion has three component processes (and shadow processes):

  • Self-kindness (vs. self blame)

  • Mindfulness (vs. overidentification with internal experience)

  • Common humanity (vs. isolation)

“Self-compassion is the master skill. It’s a superpower in life and work. It’s the antidote to shame.”
— Dr. J
Podcast Episodes
Resources from Dr. Russ Harris

(to access some resources you may need to sign up for his email list)

Self-Compassion Meditations from Dr. Kristin Neff
Assessments and Quizzes
Other Resources from Dr. Neff
“When we’re kind to ourselves, we create a reservoir of compassion that we can extend to others.”
— Brene Brown

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